For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly. O Lord of hosts, blessed is the one who trusts in you!

Psalm 84:11-12 (ESV)

Have you ever felt like being single was an indictment on your worthiness? I have. It’s a painful lie that tells us if we are good enough and if we deserve it, God will bless us with our soulmate.

But what does God say? He says that marriage is holy and his first instructions to Adam and Eve, and again to Noah’s family after the flood was to be fruitful and multiply. With the world population around 8.1 BILLION and growing, I think we can consider this “Mission Accomplished.”

In the New Testament, Paul actually promotes singleness asserting that the unmarried can focus on pleasing God while the married focus on pleasing their husbands (1 Corinthians 7:34). Paul clearly did not consider singless a punishment, and he has a lot to say about it in this chapter.

No offense to Paul, but in my deepest loneliness and when longing for someone to share my life with, I didn’t find this comforting. While these verses made sense to my mind, my heart needed more than logic. Enter David, a man who knew how to speak to the human heart. “No good thing will God withhold from those who walk uprightly.”

First, let’s address the conditional statement—for those who walk uprightly.

Notice David doesn’t say those who walk perfectly. Uprightly, other translations say those who do what is right. How do we walk uprightly? We walk with God to the best of our ability. We do what is right by trusting God with our lives.

You are a daughter of God, this promise is yours! So kick that little demon off your shoulder. You know which one, it whispers, “you aren’t good enough to earn God’s blessings.” Go ahead, give it a good flick and send him flying. None of us can earn God’s blessings. Thankfully, He rejoices to give them to His children.

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s focus on “No good thing does He withhold.”

I cannot tell you how many times this portion of verse has soothed my lonely heart. If it was good for me to be in a romantic relationship, then God would have provided it. If you are single right now, then it is GOOD for you to be single right now.

This may be hard to hear if you are single through death or divorce. I am not qualified to speak to your pain. But I know that as God leads you through your grief, you may struggle with the loneliness of being single. Perhaps you’re reading this blog because you’re already there. As you struggle to reconcile your grief with your loneliness as a single woman, remember God is still speaking blessing over your life. Trust Jesus with your pain and grief.

God is our sun and shield. He’s lighting your path, warming your soul, and protecting your heart. Trust Him with your singleness, and you’ll experience His blessing of peace and comfort. It may bloom slowly like a flower breaking through snow-packed ground or it may spring forth suddenly and shock you with its radiance.

God is stretching out His hand to bless you. Trust Him, He will withhold no good thing from you—His beloved daughter.

Father, thank you for holding us close when pain and loneliness assail our hearts. Let Your comfort fall upon us, soothing the ache in our souls and reminding us that we are greatly loved, treasured beyond comprehension, and blessed by You. Thank you for Your promise that You will withhold no good thing from us when we walk with You. Help us to surrender to Your will knowing that You will always do what is best for us. We love You. We trust You. We thank you for the life you have given us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Daughter of God, you will find wholeness in Christ.


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